There is a song on the radio by Daya titled Sit Still, Look Pretty. It talks about how she doesn’t want to have to be put together all the time and live how others think a woman should live her life. She wants to be able to be herself and not have to dress up, wear fancy jewelry, be polite, find Mr. Right, and settle down. We should not do something for someone else, especially a guy. Girls are powerful!
When I first heard this song I really liked it. Not only does it have a catchy beat and she has a great voice, but the line “I don’t wanna sit still and look pretty” really captures who I am. Don’t get me wrong, there are times that I like to get all dressed up and be proper, but that isn’t the norm.
Those of you who know me well know that I rarely sit quietly. Whether it is working a 12 hour shift at the hospital or running errands and working out on my days off, I have a full schedule. Getting 10,000 steps on my fitbit is not a problem for me. I’m active and love it. Which means I get dirty and sweaty. I’m ok with that! It means I’m living my life. I’m living MY dream.
A t-shirt, jeans, hair in a bun, and chacos is my typical attire. There is nothing wrong with getting all dressed up, wearing a dress, curling my hair, and putting on makeup, but that is not daily for me. Daya sings, “Could dress up, To get love, But guess what? I’m never gonna be that girl, Who’s living in a Barbie world”. I’m not going to be a Barbie girl and make sure every hair is in place. For me, I want to be seen for what is in my heart and soul. No matter if I just worked out at the gym or raked leaves or dressed up in heels and a dress, I want to be loved for more than what I look like.
The perception of a woman is that she will either marry, settle down, and have a family, or work a 9 to 5 job and have her life all put together. This gives little room for dreaming and personality. The pressure is on for finding the perfect guy and job. “You get off on your 9 to 5 dream of picket fences and trophy wives, but no, I’m never gonna be ’cause I don’t wanna be”. I don’t fit the mold and I’m ok with that. I don’t think there should be a model of what girls should be like. We are all unique and different and we need to embrace that. Nothing can change who we are. Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, you don’t have to sit still. As women we can follow our passions! This personally makes me excited. I have dreams and goals in my life and I’m looking forward to making them reality. They range from wanting to be able to do a pull-up at the gym to wanting to be a nurse in another country. If I sit still and let my life go by day to day, there is no way I will be able to accomplish anything. I don’t need jewelry, money, or a guy in my life to make me feel like I’m worth something. I’m ok with getting dirty and taking a big leap and then looking back in years in amazement at what this girl has done!
“This gal right here’s gonna rule the world”